bucks and pits

First blog post in a while... gotta get back in the groove... please excuse the mistakes

i coach both girls and guys soccer. the differences between the two are crazy. for example, guys are like bucks and girls are like pit bulls. with the bucks, when you get out there and they see you, they are secretly insecure and want you to prove that they have bigger horns than you do. they are strong, confident, unsure and untrusting at first.. they want that clash.. they need that clash and if you are weak, they will exploit it and you will never get their respect. you have to kick their ass. if you don't, you lose... with those bucks, you have to beat them to death, well almost, and prove that you are bigger and stronger and faster. however, once you do, you have their respect and you can coexist. in fact, it is almost better to go out of your way to find the biggest and strongest of the group and beat him down in front of the others because like i said before, they are secretly insecure and the rest do not want to get their ass kicked in front of everyone else.. the fun thing about this is, secretly the bucks want to learn how to be the leader at the top of the mountain even though they know they are not there yet. they need to find out if they have what it takes.. off the mountain, they want to get away from the herd and prove who they are and what they have to offer.. it is getting them to work together in the herd that they achieve more than the individual buck...

however pit bulls. pit bulls are the sweetest dogs you will ever have. they are loyal, fun, nice, sporty, competitive but unsure if they should be.. they are strong and have the ability to coexist with others.. however, once you piss that dog off, there is no going back and all they can see is red.. they will look out for one thing.. self.. once hurt, they become a shell of what they once were.. it is only when you love it for who it really is and accept it into your family without hesitation, will it come back. if they know that you accept and love them for who they are rather than for what they do (chess piece) do they really come to play... opposite from the buck, they have to be pushed to go outside and show what they have more to offer.. they are insecure and often dont believe that they can.. they prefer to be inside the comfortable confines of what they know..